Do You Need to Make a Decision?

As I said yesterday, I’m reading “Notes from a Friend” by Tony Robbins.

Today he reminded me that

Ultimately, it’s our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny.

But, says Tony, we don’t all use the word “decision” in the same way.

Some people say, “I’ve decided…” as shorthand for, “I think _________ is a good idea. I may throw some effort into it.” People say this about living a less cluttered life, losing weight… all sorts of things one might like to change. But that kind of decision is only a few spaces past “hope.” It doesn’t do the job. We all need hope, but hope alone doesn’t change things.

Ultimately, it's our decisions, not the conditions of our lives, that determine our destiny. - Tony Robbins Click To Tweet

What is a “decision”?

The decisions that change our lives are not lines in the sand, they are lines in concrete. The Oxford English Dictionary defines a decision as “a conclusion or resolution reached after consideration.” The considered, resolute decision is one of the most powerful forces in anyone’s life.

DECISIONS Guide decisions

Once you make a Decision, that will guide many of your smaller decisions. Have you DECIDED to lose some weight? That Decision must guide your little decisions about what and how much you put in your mouth. Have you DECIDED to become a life-long learner? That Decision must guide what you do with your free time (e.g. watch TV or read a book).

Reserve “Decision” for Actual Decisions

Your words are important. I encourage you to be very careful about using the word “decision.” It’s fine to hope things. It’s wonderful to dream things. There’s nothing wrong with, “I might want to _______________.” But treat the word “decide” with great respect. Use it intentionally, as OED defines it, for something that is a resolution you have reached after consideration. Don’t let the word “decision” come out of your mouth without forethought and willful intent to stay with your decision. Don’t decide something lightly. When you do decide something, don’t let it go lightly.

I, for one, have decided that this is enough for today.

You are God’s gift to the world. Believe it. Own it. Live it!

About the Author

John Rallison

I am a follower of Jesus Christ, though I am continually growing in understanding what that means. I believe that God loves everyone all the time. The world was created for love and whenever we veer from love, we miss the mark of who we were created to be.

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